Community Guidelines

Forbidden Behaviors

Focusmate is an amazing community, but the internet is a big place, and sometimes people use it irresponsibly.

We’ve put these rules in place to keep you safe. If you don’t feel safe, or if someone breaks one of these rules, please let us know. We’ve got your back — and so do 99.99% of the people using Focusmate!

These rules apply to all interactions on Focusmate—in sessions, in all community forums, on your profile, and at all Focusmate events.

Breaking these rules will result in a ban:

1. No nudity, sexual acts, or sexual harassment. No nudity, no sexual acts, and nothing sexually suggestive at all.
2. No threats, violence, or harm. Don’t threaten anyone in any way. Don’t harm someone else or yourself. Mentions of violence or graphic imagery are not allowed on Focusmate.
3. No hateful conduct or harassment. Don’t harass, bully, or shame anyone. Don’t single out any group of people. Don’t do anything that demeans, defames, or promotes discrimination or violence on any basis, including, but not limited to, gender identity, gender expression, race, ethnicity, national origin, age, sexual orientation, disability, physical appearance, body size, religion, political views, beliefs, or veteran status.
4. No flirting or inappropriate comments. Don’t be flirty, make suggestive remarks, or comment on your partner’s appearance. Keep the conversation focused on work. Don’t ask for your partner’s full name, exact location, age, or anything else that’s personally identifiable.
5. No inappropriate attire. You don’t need to dress up, but you should be appropriately covered up, as you would be going to a cafe, including wearing a shirt and shorts/pants/skirt at all times.
6. No selling, recruiting or promotion. Don’t use Focusmate to sell or promote a product, service, or brand. No “soft-selling”(i.e., promoting content or a brand that you are affiliated with). No recruiting (i.e., looking for people on Focusmate to test out a product or service).
7. No creating multiple accounts or sharing accounts. Members should have only one account on the platform, and sharing accounts is not allowed.
8. No taking photographs, screenshots, or videos of your partner without their consent. Do not photograph or record your partner in any way without their explicit consent.

We ask that you respect differences of opinion and make use of the Snooze and Block features if you think someone might not be a good match for you. If you think someone is in violation of the Guidelines, please let us know.